Understanding Eve’s Language

For men, the world of the females seems to be a different dimension when they encounter situations wherein they cannot understand the body language signs of their wives or partners. To be honest, women are very hard to read because of their diverse personalities or changing moods.  Sometimes, they don’t really say what they want to say, which only makes men more confused and clueless on what they need to do.  So, to help the Adams on understanding the Eves’ body language signs, here’s a list of things that women does on some circumstances that actually means something else other than what they’re saying or doing. If you’re one of those guys who just can’t understand your woman, read on.

“DON’T TALK TO ME. LEAVE ME ALONE.”

This line is usually given by your girlfriend or wife when you’re having a fight or just had one. If she told you to leave her alone and insisted on it, believe it or not, she might really want the opposite of it. Women just love to gain their partners’ attention, whether they’re in good terms or not. After a fight, don’t obey her if she told you to give her space. She only said that to test you if you’ll keep on following her around and ask for forgiveness. Women always want to see their partners showing off affection for them. Sometimes, they just love being the drama queen and want their partners to comfort them at all times.

What men can do: Obviously, if your partner wants the opposite of “leaving her alone”, then DON’T leave her side. If she’s still angry because of a fight, it’s better to let down your pride and accept the fault if it’s not too big. The only thing that could deflate her anger is comfort, understanding and love. You can hug her, whisper sweet things in her ear and plant kisses on her cheeks. If she pushes you away, don’t get intimidated by those body language signs and continue on what you’re doing. Later on, you’ll see that she’ll soften up and you two will be in good terms again, any flaw forgotten. Yes, women are very melodramatic, but if you love your partner, you should be prepared to accept that.

THE GREAT SILENT TREATMENT AND FORCED GRIN

You told your girlfriend or wife that you and your friends are going out tonight and asked her opinion. She stared at you for a couple of seconds, gave a small smile and then looked away. She gave you no answer but with the smile, you thought it was okay. You’re actually wrong.  The silent treatment and forced smile, these body language signs might not be okay. Though there’s the saying the “Silence means yes.” It might just not apply on everything. Some women prefer to not answer a question for many reasons. One, they would not like a fight to break out, especially if you’re very okay with each other at the moment. She might be weighing the answer, thinking that if she gives you a “No” you might get sulky and get mad at her. She wouldn’t want to give you a “Yes” if she doesn’t feel like it, because she could just end up regretting the decision she will make.

What men can do: Being in a relationship or loving someone can lead to some sacrifices to keep your bond well and strong. One of those sacrifices could be spending a wonderful night with your loved one rather than your friends. Women think too much when it comes to decision making, and being silent can be the only option for them to avoid any conflicts. Men can sometimes overlook these small things; they can’t really realize that actions can be greater than words. If she stayed silent on something, a question or any decision-making, try asking her again and again until she gives you the real answer or what she’s thinking. Women can be very hesitant at times when they are not sure of things. All you need to do is be patient, persistent (in a good way) and wait for the “truth” to come out.

JEALOUSY, POSSESSIVENESS AND MORE

There are traits in women that men usually find very mind-boggling or irrational, just like when women are overly jealous over everything or everyone else. Men get irritated when their partners would get jealous over an officemate, a friend or even a relative if its taking attention that’s supposed to be for them. What men should realize is that women are likely to give it all when they are in love. They would sacrifice things for the relationship’s sake or lend all their attention to their partners to express their affection, and in return, they expect the same amount of loving as well. Aside from the hormonal explanation, women are just more emotional than men and would be very affected if they see their partners giving attention to others than to her. Females are very deep thinkers and would soon jump into very far-fetched theories that can make them more grumpy or depressed towards men.  Side by side with jealousy, women can be possessive of their men when they are terribly in love with them. Men would find this suffocating and would even lead to breaking up after endless fights about this matter. But they should understand that women are just like that when they become territorial or possessive of what they have. Remember, if you value what you have, you’ll resort to any means to protect and keep it.

What men can do: Nothing can beat a cozy conversation in the sofa about things like being jealous or possessive, or any topic actually. Why? Because in a relationship, what’s important is that you are both aware of what both of you feel. Talk to her and assure her that she there’s nothing to be worried or jealous about. Women like being badgered though they won’t admit it. They like hearing good things over and over again until they can believe it from any angle. So explain to her the things you want her to understand, and she might just let it sink in into her. As regards to being possessive, tell her if it’s choking you, but be very cautious. Don’t make it sound like it’s from a very bad tone, or else it might end up in a foul fight. Set limits but consult her on any suggestion. Make her feel like she has some say into what you’re proposing. You may never know, after that conversation, she could be less jealous and paranoid over you and make your relationship much better.

All in all, to understand women and their body language signs, you need to be close to them and then listen. As a man, you can overlook the obvious under your nose. Women can be very vocal through actions although they might not be verbally. All you need to do is to be patient and have the will to listen and figure out what your partner is really saying. Though very complicated, women are open books if only you will look closely.

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